About TOM

TOM’S STORY

I was born and raised in Connecticut and I am extremely thankful to my God above that he has surrounded me with the most supportive family and friends on the planet. This support has given me the opportunity to live a “Wonderful Life” up to now. While my childhood and teenage years were glorious to say the least (filled with sports every day from sun-up to sun-down), it wasn’t until I got to the very end of high school that the first spots of adversity began to complicate my life. For the first time in my life, clarity, vision, and purpose were a little blurred.

Like my high school friends, college was the next part of the journey. This was so I could get “a good job” (as my mom would always say) with a college degree. This was the “why” everyone went to college I thought. I ended up changing colleges 3 times, almost 4! It was never “me”, it was always “the college” that wasn’t right. I quickly noticed that “the idea of college” was making me anxious and adding to the blurriness. It was my “place in this world” I was trying to find that had me feeling so clouded.

Eventually, I made it out of college and hit the ground running – accumulating as many titles under my signature as I could fit. By age 32 I was a certified teacher, certified school counselor, PTR certified tennis pro, Connecticut certified coach of sports, theater producer, disc jockey, musical theater director and amateur playwright. I was running my own small theater company and started to write/record music and shoot music videos right out of my own recording studio while managing small group music acts and music groups.

It had always been a strange thing to only do “just one thing” like most of my family and friends. I felt too bored when I only did one thing. But, I knew that doing all of these things was not the norm.

As I started to wonder why I just couldn’t settle down and do just ONE THING - questions like….Why was I so different from everyone else? Why did I have trouble picking a college major? Why did I hate the question, “So, what is it that you do for work?” I finally had my epiphany!

I became an AVID reader – maybe because I was looking for answers. I read as many books that I could read. I was reading about ten books at a time. I lived at Barnes and Nobles that had a STARBUCKS inside of it. Finally, things started to click. TRACTION!! I found out there wasn’t anything “abnormal” about me at all. I was what they call a Multipotentialite (Emilie Wapnick term), Scanner (Barbara Sher term), Slash Careerist (Marci Alboher term). Basically, instead of being a specialist in one thing, I was a generalist - having multiple interests, curiosities, and many careers.

Suddenly it all made sense. I realized I wasn’t some type of wishy-washy, non-committal person. The major reason I didn’t have my one true calling was because I had MANY! My career (or careers) with all the twists and turns, the shifting fascinations, the crazy intertwining projects - all of this was “right” - maybe not for everyone - but for me it was!

What a huge weight off my shoulders figuring out that there’s nothing wrong with you! I was finally accepting of myself. Was it still difficult? Of course! But this is how I was wired - so I knew I had to figure out how to work with these superpowers.

Once I found out what type of person I was - I still had questions and concerns. How would I make money doing all of these passions? How would I be able to adequately lend the attention to each endeavor in equal fashion? How would I deal with those people who just didn’t “seem to understand” my lifestyle? Would this jolt my confidence?

For many years and much needed experimentation, I came up with solutions that worked for me. And, since no one answer can suit all Multipotentialites, Scanners or Slash Careerists, I began coaching these same type peoples to help them navigate their paths. We all have different ways of working, prioritization, and habits - this is what makes this work so INTERESTING! Where was a person like myself that I could have called to help me with this when I was struggling? There was nobody! I even sought help in counseling and I was told that I SHOULD TRY TO CONCENTRATE ON ONE THING AT A TIME! How ridiculous was that?! That’s why I have made it my mission to help others who will go through the same things I did - but in their own way.

So what happens when you learn that you have many interests and curiosities? This is where my work begins! I am now blessed to help people just like me to test out different career interests, strategies for management, and techniques to help with feeling like you belong. Because you do! Just in a very interesting and different way! I help these same types of people learn about themselves which is what it’s all about!

Clarity, vision, and purpose will feel easy again. It did for me once I figured out how to work with these superpowers. Since the “epiphany” phase – I have been DOUBLE blessed! I have been implementing the tools and values that you’ll read about in my books, see in my videos, or someday experience LIVE! Life has become one big “GIVING BACK” party to people like myself– and in ALL MY ENDEAVORS.

If you are interested in finding out if you’re a Multipotentialite, Scanner or Slash Careerist, just reach out to me and schedule a mission call! I would love share what I know and show you how to be the best version of yourself!